我成長在民國40年代一個公務員的家庭，記憶中爸爸一份微薄的薪水，要照顧五個孩子的家庭，物質上永遠捉襟見肘，唯一不欠缺的就是爸爸媽媽濃濃的愛，還有兄弟姐妹中相親相愛的感情。
在艱困的物質環境中，我們快樂長大成家立業，從來沒想過要如何刻意教導孩子。因為成長過程中我們的爸媽，如何仔細呵護我們，教育我們的畫面早就深植心底。家在我的心中就是那首兒時常唱的「甜蜜的家庭」：
我的家庭真可愛 整潔美滿又安康
姐妹兄弟很和氣 父母都慈祥
雖然沒有好花園 春蘭秋桂長飄香
雖然沒有大廳堂 冬天溫暖夏天涼
可愛的家庭呀 我不能離開你
你的恩惠比天長
台灣社會變遷，現在我們可以過著豐裕的生活，但我們的家庭依然維持那種簡單樸實的愛，我們從沒想過除了這樣過日子還有其他什麼方式？在這樣的環境中，我們的兩個孩子也長大成人，很幸運的他們是令父母放心的孩子。他們覺得自己幸運，但也很困惑為什麼他們的同學朋友和家人視同路人，雖同住一屋簷下卻不常相見，不曾ㄧ起在家用餐，不曾關心過彼此，也不曾在乎對方的感覺。父母對他們唯一的關心就是考試成績，他們很痛苦又沒傾訴的對象，學校裡只有令人厭煩的學習，他們想毀滅自己更想毀滅別人，媒體上各種色情暴力就是他們學習的對象，他們就如此自生自滅，既沒有方向，也不知對錯。
ㄧ個可愛的家，父母慈祥，手足和氣，它令人不捨離開，不要問孩子怎麼了？先問問我們的家怎麼了?
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What’s wrong with Our Children?
I grew up in a modest family in the fifties when the economy was gloomy. My father’s humble salary was always a challenge for him to feed a five-kid family. We lived simple life, but we were showered with love from our parents and siblings.
In the tough years we grew up and got married. We never thought how to raise a family but just simply followed our parents’ model. The perception of home for us is just like the words in a very famous song, The Sweet Home.
My home is so lovely; it is warm, clean and comfortable.
We love each other and our parents love us
Even though there is no beautiful garden, but the air is always filled with the fragrance of the flowers .
Even though there is no splendid building, but the house is always cozy in the winter and cool in the summer.
My lovely home, I can never leave it.
It is a blessing to have such a lovely home.
Society has changed dramatically over the years, and we can afford to have a comfortable life, but we still keep the same simple belief in keeping a good family. Our children have grown up, and they are blessings to us. They felt lucky to have a good family, but they were also confused with their peers’ life when they were still young. They could not understand why their friends’ families lived together but acted like strangers. They could not understand why their friends’ families never ate together. They could not understand why their friends’ families ignore each other’s feelings and seldom talked together. The children had no direction. The only concern from the parents seemed to be just their academic achievement. They hated school and hated studies. They wanted to destroy others and to destroy themselves. The media was filled with violence and pornography. There were no role models to follow, and they were completely lost.
A lovely home is supposed to be a place where the parents love their children and the children care about each other and respect their parents. It is a place to keep the hardness away, a shelter for people to hide. Don’t ask what’s wrong with the children, ask the parents what kind of home they are providing.
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