兒子已經成年，又有很好的工作，但卻無法像以前一樣無話不談，做媽媽的悵然若失。
為了參加朋友的婚禮，擔任男儐相，兒子專程回台灣。雖然半年前他也才回家度過假，但做媽媽的本能反應，就是我親愛的孩子要回家，好開心！
知道他非常忙碌，不可能久待，但當他在電話中支支吾吾的告訴我，能夠在家中的時間恐怕不多。聽了他的話不知道該如何接腔，知道他一定很為難，但又不希望他把回家當成了一種負擔。
兒子從小就很貼心又很優秀，人前人後是個受人讚賞的孩子，他也知道因為他的表現，父母很開心，很以他為榮。但畢竟要維持一個完美的形象，必須付出很大的心力。很多時候我反而必須提醒他，不要太拼命，因為我不要他太辛苦。人生不是只有功名利祿，那是假象，家是一個盤石，一個避風港，當他還沒有成家的時候，我們希望他把這個家當作他學業與事業上的休息站，可以很放鬆的享受親情，可以和我們無話不談，畢竟內心的平安與快樂才是永恆。
或許兒子過去一直照著我們的期望過日子，他做的很好，我們也把他傑出的表現當作理所當然。現在他長大了，也想照自己的意思去過日子，或許他的世界與我們不再重疊，既不想違背自己的心意，但又不想還生活在我們的羽翼下，自然無法暢所欲言。
我年近八十歲的母親，身心的健康都自顧不暇，但她比任何人都還擔心我天涼不知添衣，飲食沒有節制，生活起居不正常，尤其每當聽到我事業上遭遇什麼困難，她更憂心如焚。有時我會厭煩她的關心，或是看她焦急，後悔自己多話。我覺得自己在社會上已經有一席之地，究竟她還能幫上什麼忙？
想到我自己，想到母親，我很想告訴兒子：「不要擔心你做的事是不是在我們期望中，我們愛你，只希望你幸福快樂！我們知道你想在事業上叱吒風雲，但是世間的事瞬息萬變，只有家是你累了倦了可以休息再出發的地方，只要我們心中有著彼此，回家永遠是個享受，因為我們愛你。」
高齡父母遠從台北參與盛會
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We Love You
Our son has grown up and has a good job. However, he seems a little distant to me. I don’t know what has happened because we used to be so close.
Recently he has made a special trip to come back from America to be the best man in a wedding. Even though he just came back for a vacation six months ago, I was thrilled to hear that he would come home again soon.
It is easy to understand that it will be a short trip for him because he has such a heavy load at work; however, I was quite disappointed when I heard him stuttering on the phone that he would have very little time to be home. I wish I could tell him that we miss him and would like him to stay longer, but I swallowed my words because I didn’t want him to feel pressured.
My son has been very attached to us ever since he was a little boy. He has tried his best to honor his parents in everything he does and he had many moments few children could claim. He was a dream child for any family. There is no need to say that we feel very proud of him every time when we receive compliments from friends. However, keeping a perfect image is tough and life seems to be just endless challenges for him. There are times I have to remind him that he needs to slow down and not to be too hard on himself. I would rather him enjoy his life more than just work. I would like him to know that we are his friends and we support everything he does. Anytime when he feels tired or hurt, we are at home waiting for him.
Probably he has never failed us, so we take everything for granted. However, now he has grown up and he has his own world. Perhaps he wants to be himself and not our little boy anymore. Perhaps he feels that he will disappoint us if he does not want to follow our suggestions. Perhaps he doesn’t want to hurt our feelings but he doesn’t want to be dishonest either, so he decides to close himself up.
My mother is nearly eighty years old and she is not in good health. However, she worries about me much more than I can imagine. From time to time she will tell me what I should do, how to eat healthy, how to dress properly, and how to live happily. I feel annoyed when she tells me what I should do. Sometimes I even felt regretful for letting her know about any bad things happening in my life because she would worry so much.
Thinking about myself, thinking about my mother, I would like to tell my son: Please don’t worry whether you can please us or not, we love you and we want you to be happy. We know that you don’t have too much time to spend with us, but we understand because we love you.
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